Tantric Massage by Frank Paul
December 23, 2011
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Tantra Techniques 
In today’s “anything goes,” sexually liberated world, it is distressing to see how many women are not enjoying great sex! Everyone deserves the very best possible experiences in the magical world of lovemaking, yet not every woman describes their love lives as fitting the bill. And there are reasons why this is so. Society has, unfortunately, laid some limiting conditioning on us in the form of sexual taboos, along with sometimes vaguely ingrained notions that sex is somehow “dirty” or “something to get over with.” Sex can be the doorway to some of the most powerful, wonderful, even mystical, experiences human beings can have. It is regrettable nobody taught us how to have these kinds of experiences. That can change.
Certain myths held in our culture prevent women from enjoying the fullness and richness of good lovemaking. The most destructive myth to be debunked is, “I’ll have good sex when Mr. Right comes along ~ he’ll know just what to do.” Well, most of us are still waiting. What first must be understood is we are responsible for making ourselves feel good, because we know exactly what we like. Now this involves a level of participation new to most women. This page presents suggestions and techniques discovered through experimentation in the hope you’ll be inspired to experiment, too. You won’t regret your decision. (Nor will your partner/s!) These methods are proven to help women (and men) have consciousness-raising, full-body orgasms rather than just genitally located ones. The difference is tremendous.
Tantric lovemaking shows us how to run sexual energy through all our erogenous zones for a much more intense, full body experience. By consciously running energy through all the chakras in the body, great amounts of energy are created, and in turn, used to revitalize and renew you, your lover and the planet.
Sexual energy is generated in the genitals, which are the seat of the “average” sexual act. Most people do not raise their sexual energy past this area while experiencing orgasm. And that feels pretty darn good. But there’s more! After all, we have a whole body to work with! We can have the kind of bursting fireworks orgasms we’ve only heard about by learning to focus sexual energy in our genitals, and then raise it up, through stimulation, to the higher sexual zones. The goal is to set up currents of sexual energy coursing through the entire body, and eventually to explode in the head and the heart as well as the genitals. Let’s explore some ways to accomplish this.
During lovemaking the erogenous zones above the genitals must be activated through manual stimulation. A little anatomy refresher will help us here. In both sexes a nerve runs from the genitals all the way up the length of the body to the upper lip and if firm pressure is applied to the area between the lip and nose, sexual excitement will increase. French kissing brings about the same result. If you aren’t near your partner’s mouth, extend your tongue and wiggle it just as if you were kissing your lover. Try to get past embarrassment at looking foolish or old taboos against sticking out your tongue. Ancient Hindu art depict couples employing this method; try it and you’ll find it increases sexual feelings. Have your partner place a finger or two partially down your throat for an arousing experience. (Some women find sucking the fingers very exciting, as well.) In general, any technique that creates movement for the tongue and mouth will involve higher chakras and raise your sexual energy.
As the mouth and throat are stimulated, sexual energy is automatically pulled upwards. Because the heart is positioned between the genitals and mouth area, it naturally receives stimulation from the energy flowing through it. People report outpourings of love and increased sexual response when this occurs. To further enhance this process, pinch one nipple firmly at its base between the thumb and forefinger. If you can do this until you feel a slight burning sensation, you will pass through the discomfort stage for even increased arousal. This works almost unanimously for women (experiment and discover which nipple is most sensitive) and for many men as well. Squeezing the breasts hard also pulls sexual energy upward, opens the heart, and is very pleasurable for the woman. Whatever method you prefer, please give lots of attention to the breasts ~ when the heart is awakened, everything in life is more enjoyable.
Other ways to raise sexual energy include such unconventional methods as hair-pulling (not to the point of extreme pain, please), placing a leg over your partner’s chest, which inhibits lung expansion (and strongly affects the sexual response!), and head squeezing ~ all are very effective. Now, you’re probably thinking: I’ ll look ridiculous doing these things. Rest assured your lover won’t think its ridiculous when he sees how excited you are … in fact, its very likely you’ll be the hottest thing he’s ever seen. Be daring ~ take a chance and find out for yourself!
And now for the big guns in our “great sex” arsenal. Perhaps the single most powerful process a woman can do to promote an outrageously large sexual response is to alternate between squeezing her PC (pubococcygeus) muscles, then using those muscles to push out. (This is the “bearing down” women do in childbirth ~ the same muscles also used to stop the flow of urine once in progress are the PC muscles). A series of perhaps three or four contractions of her vaginal muscles alternated with one long, strong, push affects women in unbelievably powerful ways. Many women experience tremendous orgasms after only a few repetitions of these. Please remember the vaginal, not the anal, muscles are employed here.
The longer you can push out, the stronger you’ll be able to “squeeze” afterwards … this allows your muscles to relax without losing any sexual tension. As you continue, sexual tension builds while the pushing out relaxes the PC muscle enough to be able to squeeze hard again. The more often you do these exercises, the bigger and stronger the PC muscle gets, creating more feeling and a much larger sexual response. Just squeezing alone doesn’t quite do it, though is in itself, quite enjoyable. Now your partner is going to love you for this … all men greatly approve of this technique because it increases sensation for them, as well.
At first you’ll probably have to concentrate a bit to get this going. Try practicing solo during your own personal lovemaking sessions until you can do the series relatively easily. (Indeed, if you aren’t involved in a relationship, please practice this way! Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy, and don’t deserve great sex. Besides, it’s a great body toner and overall beautifier ~ it even makes you glow!) You will be amazed at the heightened sensations you’ll feel after only a short while. Remember, the key here is the “pushing out”!
Make love with your whole body, practice safe sex
and have more fun than ever!
“Tantra Techniques” is written by Denise St. Denis
Orgasm Just by Thinking: Is it Possible?
August 27, 2010
Is it possible to bring yourself to orgasm just by thinking?
Barbara Carrellas more than thinks so. She says she knows so, since she’s been “thinking herself off” for more than twenty years.
Click HERE for the link to the story.
Barbara Carrellas "Thinking Off"
Here Elle writes about her experience of orgasm, all of the pleasurable sensations she notices, including female ejaculation.
The engorgement began before he touched me. I felt the surge of sensation flow into my genitals. I pushed all the energy I felt circulating around in my chest down into my pussy and felt the sensation rise. He moved my labia around with his finger tips, gently probing the folds of flesh, I felt them open up and become full and yielding to his exquisite touch. I fell in love again, in love with him, in love with life. I feel right, more right than at any other time in my life.
Can Tension Lead to More Sexual Pleasure for Women?
April 28, 2010
Can Tension Lead to More Sexual Pleasure for Women?
People experience a lot of tension in our world today. However, there is a phenomenon that is not often recognized that could change all that tension into a path to more pleasure.
What is tumescence?
Pronunciation: \tü-’me-sen(t)s
The dictionary defines tumescence as:
1. a swelling or an enlargement
2. the quality or state of being tumescent: readiness for sexual activity marked especially by an accumulation of blood in the sex organs
From a sensualist’s viewpoint, a more encompassing definition of tumescence is the buildup of tension in the body. Detumescence is the waning of tension.
Tumescence is stored energy, unreleased. Tumescence is always present in a woman’s body, but the amount of this tension in her body ebbs and flows in intensity every day throughout her entire life.
When a woman is experiencing a high level of tumescence in her body, it can FEEL like tension. It can feel like that to her, and it can feel like that to the people around her too – stressful. It is in these situations where there is a high level of tumescence, that people are challenged to have any fun or pleasure relating to each other at all. So, how can you recognize this level of tumescence? And once you do recognize it, how do you have more FUN with it?
Signs of a woman experiencing a high level of tumescence will show up in different ways. Some of the signs are a woman talking very quickly where you may have a difficult time following what she says or understanding her communications. Or a woman might start crying or laughing for no particular reason. She could be feeling stressed out or bitchy. She might have sensitivity to loud jangly noises, or an aversion to light touch.
Being an avid observer of a woman and her cycles of tumescence, you can get to know her better and have more fun with her. What women want is to have attention and to have their body taken care of, to be detumesced. When you put your attention on her, you may begin to notice the many ways a woman uses and releases this energy. These ways can be deliberate or they can be by default.
Some of the ways that a woman can deliberately be detumesced are exercising, cleaning, organizing, masturbating, having sex, taking a bath, getting a massage, having her hair brushed, having a good conversation, or laughing. All of these methods detumesce a woman deliberately and pleasurably.
Some of the ways that a woman will be detumesced by default are bumping into furniture, tripping, falling, arguing, fighting, causing or engaging in drama.
When you notice a woman and the tumescence she has in her body, you can make offers that are pleasurable to her.
As a man, you can run a menu of things that you think would pleasurably detumesce her. For example, “How about if I run you a bath?” or “Would you like to go for a walk together?” or “How about I DO you?” Putting your non-judgmental attention on her is detumescing.
As a woman, you don’t need to be victimized by the intensity of the energy you feel in your body either. Tumescence is stored energy, unreleased. When you notice tension, a tool you can use to have more fun is to identify it as tumescence. Then take a moment to consider detumescing deliberately. You can choose to take care of your body – acknowledge the tension that you are feeling and release it pleasurably.
When tension in everyday life is recognized as tumescence, the potential exists for both men and women to have more fun together, exploiting the buildup of tension for what it is.
“Article written by the Welcomed Consensus. For more information about Deliberate Orgasm, DOing, please visit their web site at http://www.welcomed.com“
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Actual Account of a Tantric Massage — from a woman’s perspective
December 1, 2009
Diary of a Tantra Massage
An actual account from a woman’s perspective.
PrologueFor most of our lives, women serve as the caretakers in our society. We give birth to, and raise our children. We care for the men in our lives, providing a home that nurtures the soul. For many of us, we are the primary caretakers of the bedroom as well. We find ourselves focused primarily on pleasuring our men, rarely giving a thought to our own needs. Of course our men do please us, but it is usually part of a ritual that is in response to our pleasuring them first. Recently however, after reading about Tantra massage, I decided that it was time to take a moment to focus purely on my own special needs.At its highest form, Tantric Massage is an extraordinarily intimate encounter. To view it otherwise is to diminish its value. This is the story of my first experience with Tantra. It will hopefully not be the last. I began this journey by looking for a partner who would help me to explore more deeply who I was, both as a woman and as a sensual spiritual being. I found my tantric “guide” after a great deal of Internet research. A series of sensitive e-mail communications, ultimately gave me the confidence to make an appointment. Our electronic dialog made me feel that “my guide’s” approach would be clear and loving, with a keen awareness of my physical, emotional and sexual needs. I would not be disappointed by my initial judgment.
Preparation
My own personal preparation began more than a week prior to our arranged meeting. Feeling both hopeful and confident about my guide’s approach to Tantric Massage, I had every expectation that I would be in good hands. My guide would focus on creating an experience, during which my sensuality would be fully and completely explored. It was clear that we would begin slowly, allowing for this experience to unfold gradually and naturally. We would not be rushed. I was told to expect the session to last from two to three hours.
A few days prior to our meeting, I began a process of conscious preparation. I wanted my body to be as receptive as possible. I took steps to make myself more available, lathering myself with more lotion and body oil than usual, so as to soften my skin. I waxed my pubic and labial area, in order to more visually expose my clitoris, making it more accessible to touch. I performed increased my sessions of Kegel exercises to prepare my vaginal area for stimulation. I also began to fantasize about the session, only later fully realizing that this “visualization exercise” would be an important tool in allowing me to relax into the experience.
The Appointment
My guide arrived right on time and although I will confess to some nervousness, my momentary anxiety was abated when I opened the door to reveal my guide’s open arms and welcoming smile. We began our meeting with wine and conversation. Taking the edge off with about 15 minutes of initial “getting to know you” pleasantries, before the subject actually drifted toward my purpose in being there. Again I was given the opportunity to express the nature of my interest and expectations. I was satisfied that I had made the right decision.
The Massage
Beginning at my shoulders, my guide applied lavish quantities of oil upon my body. My guide’s hands then rubbed along my back, sides and up toward the sides of my breasts. With my hands extended over my head, I found myself anticipating more. Soon, I found myself crying silently for more. How rich an experience it was to realize all that I needed was to relax and enjoy the ecstasy of this exquisite touch.
Eventually it became time to remove the solitary towel, my body now crying out for exploration. As if reading my mind my guide’s well-oiled hands began to stroke along my buttocks; exploring up and down the crease; moving from my labia to my rosebud. Occasionally my guide would grasp my labial lips, holding them for a prolonged moment. This was an extremely sensual experience and I found myself reflexively arching my back to allow better access to my clit. I was left breathless and in ecstasy, a word I find myself repeating over and over again to describe this experience.
By now, my guide’s fingers had made it to most of the intimate parts of my body. Simultaneously massaging my clitoris, one finger firmly atop my rosebud, with another inserted into my Yoni. Soon, I was “riding the wave” of back-to-back orgasms. Knowing that I was completely in my guide’s hands, literally and figuratively, allowing full access to wherever these intuitive and talented fingers were being guided. Amazingly, at that moment, I did not hesitate or feel reluctant for all of my body to be explored. My entire body now writhed and quivered uncontrollably as my buttocks thrust in the air, over and over again. I had relinquished control, and it was wonderful.
Encore
Just as I thought that there was no more to be done, I was given the opportunity to rest. Having caught my breath, my guide helped me to roll over and onto my back. Then, just as before, a towel was placed across my midsection. At this point, with little inhibition, I secretly hoped that it would soon be removed. I now found it difficult to restrain myself, in anticipation of again being complete nude and unencumbered.
Mercifully, I would not have to wait for long, as my guide began to massage my breasts, then my inner thigh. Removing the towel now exposed my smooth and freshly waxed private area. Including my swollen clitoris, which now presented itself for attention. And it did receive attention, as did my labia, Yoni and “rosebud”. My Goddess Spot was explored as I quivered over and over again. My release felt endless as my guide and I came together to understand my body. It was stunning to know that after 40 years on this planet so much could be revealed to me about the inner workings of my physical being.
I was exhausted and invigorated all at the same time. I would sleep well that night, awaking the following morning with a feeling of clarity and creativity that can only be found when the body and mind and truly cleansed.
Re-living my experience
During the days, which followed, I found myself looking back on that afternoon with a sense of memory that would previously have been unimaginable. Simply recalling the moment would produce orgasmic quivers! Tantric Massage provides a vehicle for addressing the total needs of the female body, it has it’s own rhythm and purpose. The experience has opened my eyes and my body to a new level of being and I will forever be changed by the experience.
Demystifying the G-Spot
November 8, 2009
Demystify the G-Spot
Discover the many Sensational Thunkspots
Thunkspots: Pressure sensitive spots
accessible inside a woman’s vagina when she is properly engorged.
It is widely publicized that the clitoris contains more than 8,000 pressure sensitive nerve endings. What people are now realizing is that the clitoris extends into much of the body’s pelvic area and can engorge 2-3 times its normal size.
The commercially-known G-spot is just one of the many sensational spots inside a woman’s vagina. The G-spot is simply the underneath side of the clitoris where it forks, becoming the clitoral legs or crura. The legs of the clitoris run adjacent to the urethral sponge. This area is the most prone to engorgement and is highly sensational, therefore, has drawn the most attention.
The vagina has no pressure-sensitive nerve endings, but there are pressure-sensitive nerve endings in the deeper tissue.
When the clitoris, internally and externally, is properly engorged, many sensational spots inside of a woman’s vagina emerge and can be discovered for pleasurable stimulation.
We call all of these sensitive spots Thunkspots.
So what is engorgement and what is the best way to create it? The clitoris and the whole of the genitals is just one of several areas in the human body composed of erectile tissue. Engorgement is when these erectile tissues fill with blood.
Stimulating the glans of the clitoris using a fingertip is the most effective and pleasurable way to create engorgement in a woman’s genitals, making the Thunkspots accessible. This creates the potential for intensely pleasurable sensation during intercourse or with manual penetration.
A fun way to experiment with engorgement is by doing your own sensual research: Next time you are stroking your own or your partner’s clitoris, gently insert the index finger of your opposite hand into the vagina – just up to the first knuckle – and simply feel. Resume stroking the clitoris, while continuing to feel the fingertip inside the vagina – notice the degree of engorgement during the interim. Do this several times, taking note of any changes, no matter how slight or subtle it may feel.
By creating more engorgement in a woman’s genitals, all of the sensual experiences you have with your partner or during a session will be much more enjoyable and pleasurable.
The Welcomed Consensus
“Article written by the Welcomed Consensus. For more information about Deliberate Orgasm, DOing, please visit their web site at http://www.welcomed.com“
Deliberate Orgasm:
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Tantric Massage Video Excerpt
November 5, 2009
The following is a videoclip taken from the instructional video “Tantric Massage” by Kenneth Ray Stubbs. I particularly like the flowing movement of the masseurs style. Enjoy!
The Woman Who Can’t Stop Orgasming
October 17, 2009
The following true story was told to me by a woman who chooses to remain anonymous for privacy reasons. If you think you have Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder, you can visit this forum for help. I had my first orgasm at the age of 17. I was sitting at my desk at school when all of a sudden, I felt a warm, pulsing feeling in my genital area. My vagina flared up and I couldn’t think straight. It was like someone had squeegeed my thoughts away. I was like, whoa, what’s that? It felt really erotic and good, but I was also freaked out, scared, and confused. After that, it started happening a few times a day. I searched online for spontaneous orgasms, but all I found was weird porn. It kept getting worse. During my second semester of senior year, I counted orgasms on a sheet of paper. I was having 100 and 200 a day. I ran to hide in the bathroom between classes to relieve the pressure. By the time I started college, the orgasms became even more intense and disruptive, and I was having trouble concentrating. I became really depressed. I didn’t know what was wrong with me, and I wasn’t getting any better. I cried a lot. I hid in the bathroom. I became violently protective of my privacy. In the beginning, I told everyone I trusted about my condition. People said things like: “You’re so lucky!” and “Dude, I’d love to date you.” They didn’t understand why I wanted it to go away, and labeled me a drama queen. The school psychiatrist thought I was crazy. After my sophomore year, I bought a bunch of vibrators and took medical leave. One day in 2003, a friend sent me an article in the Boston Globe about a newly discovered condition called Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome*. When I read it, I started crying hysterically — it described exactly what I was going through. I immediately made an appointment at the institute the article linked to, and after hours of tests, I was diagnosed with PSAS. My engorged genitalia and hypersensitivity made me a textbook case. Every other doctor had thought I was just a delusional hypochondriac. PSAS feels like having a second heartbeat. No, it’s more than that. It’s alive — it has its own life force, a mind of its own. I often wonder if this is how teenage boys feel about their erections. My parents pretend my PSAS doesn’t exist. It makes me feel uncomfortable and rejected. My mother is very conservative — she has trouble saying the word “orgasm” out loud, and she thinks I’m a pervert because I have toys. A couple months ago, out of the blue, she said, “You still having that orgasm problem?” That was only the second time she asked about it since 2003. I sometimes wish I could make reference to it in normal conversations without feeling like a freak, but I understand that PSAS isn’t exactly dinner conversation. Every time I do something, I have to evaluate my situation. Where am I? Are there other people around? How well do I know them? What is the likelihood that, if I don’t get someplace private in time, things could get complicated? Can I make noise? (Being vocal isn’t necessary, but it helps release more of the pressure.) I avoid triggers — things like music with heavy bass, vibrations from riding a train or an idle car, cold air, musky cologne, darkness, stress, scary movies, romantic movies, unexpected touch, a full bladder. PSAS is completely unrelated to sex drive. Watching sex scenes does nothing for me, but the other day, when a friend put his hand on my back, I found it really hard to contain a screaming orgasm. If my heart rate shoots up too high for too long, I flare up. I avoided exercise and gained a lot of weight. One time, I was hugging a male relative and I felt an orgasm arise. It felt really dirty and wrong, and I totally freaked out. Now, I try to avoid hugs in general unless I feel ready for them. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about six years, but we still haven’t had sex. I don’t know if I’ll ever be ready to do it. Because of a vulvar pain disorder I have that sometimes comes with PSAS, I know it will hurt like hell. Others who have PSAS say that sex is not satisfying at all — the orgasms associated with sex are nothing compared to the ones induced by the condition. Sometimes I wish I could have sex with him because I think he deserves to have a ‘real’ girlfriend, but honestly, I just enjoy being held by him and not having it feel inappropriate. He’s been very patient and understanding; he’s my best friend, and we talk every night. I’m 24 now, and have learned to manage PSAS pretty well. I discovered dancing — it’s a great alternative to jogging because it’s not as cardio-intensive. As long I take breaks between routines, folk dancing or doing salsa doesn’t cause a flare up. Last week, I was at the movies and had to leave twice because I was flaring up. Each time, I ran to the bathroom and tapped my heels on the floor to hear if there was anyone else around. Then I locked myself into a stall, braced myself against the stall door, and let the orgasm run its course. I missed about 15 minutes of the film, but that’s just one of the many things that result from managing PSAS and its collateral damage. My orgasms feel like a cosmic joke. I don’t know why this happened to me and not someone else. If I didn’t have PSAS, I’d be much more outgoing, and I probably would have finished college two years earlier. I’d have a normal sex life. I feel like I’m lugging around a shadow, a ghost that I just can’t shake. It depresses me that I’m stuck with it, probably for the rest of my life, but strangely enough, I don’t want to be cured instantly of PSAS. It appeared suddenly in my life, and if it disappeared just as suddenly, I would always be looking over my shoulder, and I’m not sure I would know who I was. I would rather have it slowly fade away, but if it doesn’t, well, I’m doing my best to make peace with this part of my life. *The name of this condition was recently changed to Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder to remove the stigma that this is a sexual disease. PGAD will be officially recognized in the next edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which comes out in 2012.
What DO Women Want? A Pleasurable Communication Tool…
October 17, 2009
What DO women really want?
A woman’s pleasures and desires are always changing, day to day and moment to moment. Noticing your partner and having clear communication, both in and out of the bedroom, are fundamental elements for a fun and thriving relationship.
When there is a lack of communication between partners, many questions remain unanswered, creating mystery and detracting from the fun and pleasure you could be having together. Questions like, “What did she mean by that?” Or, “Was that a ‘good’ moan, or a ‘move your hand to the left’ moan?” What would you do if you asked your partner “Does that feel good?” and she said “No”? Even if you recovered from the blow to your ego, how do you know what to do next? What if she answered “I don’t know”? The possibilities are literally endless, how can you find out what she does like? On the other hand, what if she said “Yes, I like that”. Would you know without a doubt what it was you were doing that pleased her? Would you feel confident that you could do it again the next time? Or are you still left guessing and in mystery?
The fact is, men do not read minds. It is no surprise that so many men wonder, “Is it possible for me to know exactly what she wants and give it to her every time?” Our answer is an emphatic “Yes”! It is also possible to train your partner to touch you the way you want and have both people win while communicating.
One simple tool to knowing what a woman wants is to notice her and ask winning questions. When you are engaged in a sensual experience, ask a question such as, “Would you like a slower stroke?” Or “Would you like more pressure?” Both a “yes” or a “no” are winning answers, and give you more information about what she wants.
Communication is key to a great sex life. What a woman wants may be completely different from one day to the next, even one moment to the next. No matter how long you have known each other, learning to ask winning questions will allow you to find out exactly what she wants, every time.
“Article written by Rachael Slater, instructor of the Welcomed Consensus. For more information about Deliberate Orgasm, DOing, please visit their web site at http://www.welcomed.com .”
Deliberate Orgasm:
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